Brother Sama gives a great homily on Mary. It is impossible for the Christian to understand Mary and her place of honour without understanding the role of the mother in Eastern/Oriental kingdoms. Generally the king's mother, not his wife, is considered the queen. Being easterners, the Twelve Disciples, as they came to understand Jesus as King, would have understood Mary's place as their Queen and Mother. All of her actions and Christ's words about and toward her would have been understood in this sense.
God sent his Son so that we might receive adoption as sons.